Heroic Kids

They didn’t choose any of it.And neither did you.

You grew up in different worlds

My parents were twenty when they had me. The world they were raised in and the world they raised me in weren’t far apart. More channels. Early video games. Different enough to argue about, close enough that they could still picture it.

That distance has widened twice over since.

People tend to have kids later than they used to, so there’s more ground between the two childhoods to begin with. And the years in between now hold far more change than the same number of years used to hold. Twenty years isn’t the length it was.

So the childhood you had and the childhood your kid is having sit further apart than any parent and kid in history. Nobody arranged that. It happened while everyone was busy.

And it shows up in ordinary places. You explain something that was obvious where you grew up, and it doesn’t land. They tell you about something that matters enormously in their world, and you can hear that it matters without being able to feel why. Each of you comes away a little further off than you started.

Do that enough times and you stop starting the conversation.

That isn’t attitude, and it isn’t distance, and it isn’t either of you getting it wrong. It’s an understanding gap with a cause.

You’re also both living in a world with less of the connective tissue there used to be. Less that’s walkable, more of the day handled through a screen — for you as much as for them. The disconnection isn’t something happening to your kid that you’re supposed to solve. It’s the water you’re both standing in.

And that’s before the plain arithmetic. Plenty of households are working every hour there is just to keep the basics covered. Time isn’t handed out evenly, and any version of this that assumes otherwise isn’t worth reading.

So start here: you’re trying. That was never in question.

What a kid actually has a say over

Kids get treated as small adults who need correcting — talk to them about their choices, their attitude, their effort, as though the whole thing sits inside them.

But look at what any of them actually gets a say in.

Not the pace of the house. Not what’s on the tray. Not the schedule, the screens, or the fact that the world moved indoors. Not the words used about them — which are quietly becoming the words they’ll use about themselves.

A kid is close to a pure product of conditions they had no hand in.

So were you. So was whoever raised you, and whoever raised them. Nobody in that line picked their link.

What actually changes

Not that you take on more. You’re already carrying it.

What changes is that the two of you end up with the same words for what’s going on — so that the hard conversations later start from somewhere, because you’ve already had the easy version of them.

That’s the whole aim. Not a better-behaved kid. A pair of people who understand the same thing the same way, working from the same side of it.

There will still be tension. Anyone telling you otherwise is selling something. But there can be less of it, and there can be more of the other thing.

How it works

Heroic Kids unfolds through Adventures, walked together. Each one arrives in three parts:

A story your kid steps into — a flipbook that teaches through myth and image rather than instruction, with a Wisdom Scroll that boils it down to something they can carry into the week.

Audio — recorded for listening properly, in the car or at bedtime, without anything else competing for attention.

A Mentor Guide for you — the reasoning behind the Adventure, the questions worth asking, and what to do when the conversation goes somewhere you weren’t expecting. You don’t need to be a therapist. You need to show up.

Adventures are revealed one at a time to protect attention, but families move at their own speed. Revisit a story. Stay where something feels alive. There is no catching up and no falling behind.

The Journey Begins — seven Adventures

The first Journey. Each Adventure has a Wild Guardian, and each one restores something the modern world tends to wear down.

The journey doesn’t end there. It roots. More Journeys follow, each with its own arc and its own Guardians.

Start with the introduction

There’s a welcome and introduction that explains what Heroic Kids is, how an Adventure actually goes, and what it asks of you. Read it before deciding anything.

Readable on a phone, though it’s a better experience on a tablet or a computer.

No registration. Nothing to enter.

The Kids Table

Heroic Kids doesn’t end with the Adventures. It gathers around The Kids Table — the room inside the Rebel’s Playground for the kids and the adults walking with them.

I joke that at the holidays, the best seat in the house is the kids’ table. Not because it’s smaller or louder, but because it’s where curiosity lives, where the laughing is unfiltered, and where the world is still being imagined.

The Kids Table carries that spirit. For the adults, it’s somewhere to sit with rather than stand over — to notice what’s happening, share something quietly, and remember what it was like to see the world without armour.

Nobody is being measured against anybody. No expectation to post. No right way to belong.

How this one is built

No scores. Nothing timed. Nothing that has to be finished by a date. What kids come away with instead:

Their bodies are wise. Their feelings belong. Connection is strength. Rest is natural. Growth takes time.

And the adults aren’t positioned as fixers or enforcers. You’re walking it too, which is the only version of this that has ever worked.

How to walk it

Heroic Kids comes with the Rebel’s Playground subscription. It isn’t sold separately, and that’s deliberate — the thing that changes a house most is the adult in it doing their own work, and the subscription is where that lives.

So the same membership carries both. The Adventures for the two of you, and this for you:

The Rebel’s Mythos — the same walk the book takes in two days, taken slowly in your own life instead. Seven stages, fifty waypoints, one a week. Twenty minutes or less to read, and rather longer to live.

The Hearth — once a month we meet live, in small groups, recorded so missing one costs nothing.

The Library — Rebel Well, which is the companion book to this one, plus Being Invitational and the Soul Recovery podcast.

The Kids Table, and the rest of the Playground.

A waypoint arrives each week, an Adventure arrives each week, and neither one is a schedule you have to keep. Nothing expires. If a few stack up while life gets loud, they’ll be there when you come back.

$29 the first month, $49 after. Cancel any time, and the door stays open.

See the whole Playground first →

One more thing, if you want it

Somewhere back there I said your kid is close to a pure product of conditions they had no hand in — and that so were you.

If you want to know what that actually looks like in your own case, there’s a readout for it. Thirty-three questions, about six minutes to answer. At the end you get an explanation of the four forces shaping how you live, built entirely from your own answers.

Free. No registration, no e-mail, nothing to enter.

Children are not problems to solve.
They’re people to protect, listen to, and walk beside.